Hello pineapple friends! 🍍
Another week, another pile of headlines about our world hitting the mainstream. Some of it’s great. Some of it’s… well, let’s just say the internet had opinions. As always, we’re here to break it all down — what happened, whether they got it right, and what it means for the lifestyle community.
Let’s get into it.
1. Nikki Glaser Goes Viral for “Open Relationship” Confession on Call Her Daddy
What happened: Comedian Nikki Glaser appeared on Alex Cooper’s Call Her Daddy podcast and dropped a bombshell — she’s comfortable with her long-term boyfriend Chris Convy hooking up with other women, as long as it stays physical and doesn’t cross into emotional territory. She chalked it up to her “competitive nature” and said she actually likes it. The clip went nuclear on social media, sparking a full-blown “Is monogamy dead?” debate across X, TikTok, and every corner of the internet with a hot take.
Our take: Okay, real talk — this one’s a mixed bag for us. On one hand, any time a high-profile woman normalizes the idea that open dynamics can work and be her idea? That’s a win. The lifestyle needs more voices like that. On the other hand, framing it as “competitive nature” and emphasizing that it’s only physical feeds into the stereotype that non-monogamy is just about sex and ego. The emotional depth, the communication work, the trust-building — none of that made the viral clip. But hey, it got people talking, and conversations lead to curiosity. We’ll take it.
Verdict: Partially accurate, mostly positive energy, but missing the bigger picture of what healthy non-monogamy actually looks like.
🔗 Yahoo Entertainment coverage
2. Psychology Today: “What Happens When a Couple Opens Their Relationship?”
What happened: Psychology Today published a piece covering a new study from Social Psychological and Personality Science that tracked 233 adults over two months to see what actually happens to relationship satisfaction when a couple decides to open up. The researchers tested two competing theories — that opening up improves relationships by meeting more needs, or that it’s a Pandora’s box of conflict. The results? It’s nuanced. Couples who opened their relationship didn’t see the dramatic decline that critics predict, but the picture wasn’t all roses either.
Our take: This is the kind of coverage we love to see. Actual research, actual data, not just celebrity gossip or moral panic. And honestly? The findings track with what we’ve seen in our own journey and across our community. Opening up doesn’t automatically destroy your relationship — but it doesn’t magically fix it either. It amplifies what’s already there. If your foundation is solid and you communicate like your relationship depends on it (because it does), opening up can absolutely deepen your connection. If you’re using it as a band-aid? Different story. The fact that Psychology Today is running pieces like this means the academic world is taking us seriously, and that matters.
Verdict: Accurate, balanced, and genuinely helpful. More of this, please.
3. The Presbyterian Church Debates Polyamory Policy for Clergy
What happened: The Presbyterian Church (USA) is considering a new overture at its upcoming General Assembly that would require ministers in sexual relationships to be monogamous — and would call for pastoral resources to help people exit polyamorous relationships. An Episcopal priest and researcher named April Stace pushed back in Presbyterian Outlook, arguing the proposal regulates relationship form rather than addressing actual ethical substance, power dynamics, or harm.
Our take: Look, we get that faith communities have their own frameworks, and we respect that. But here’s what bugs us — the assumption baked into this proposal that polyamorous relationships are inherently harmful or need to be “exited.” That’s not a theological argument, that’s a bias wearing a collar. April Stace’s response was dead-on: you can’t write policy that broad without accidentally catching divorced co-parents, chosen families, and deep lifelong friendships in the same net. The fact that mainline denominations are even having this conversation, though? That tells you non-monogamy has arrived in spaces we never expected. Progress looks messy sometimes.
Verdict: The policy itself leans negative toward the lifestyle, but the public pushback from within the church is a sign the conversation is shifting. Complicated, but worth watching.
4. Manhattan Institute & UnHerd: “Why Is the Media Promoting Polyamory?”
What happened: The Manhattan Institute’s weekly newsletter highlighted an UnHerd piece titled “Why Is the Media Promoting Polyamory?” — a conservative critique of how outlets like New York Magazine, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and the New York Post have all recently run stories normalizing non-monogamy, throuples, and polyamorous arrangements. The author argues this coverage makes these relationships seem far more popular than they actually are, and that it amounts to a “quiet attack on marriage.” They cite data showing 51% of Americans now consider open marriage acceptable, and frame that as alarming.
Our take: Here’s the thing — we actually agree that some mainstream coverage has been shallow. We’ve said that ourselves. When the only stories being told are messy celebrity breakups or think-pieces from people who tried non-monogamy once and hated it, the community gets misrepresented. But this article isn’t asking for better coverage — it’s asking for no coverage. There’s a difference between “the media should tell more nuanced stories about non-monogamy” and “the media should stop talking about non-monogamy entirely because it threatens marriage.” One is media criticism. The other is fear. And fam, if 51% of Americans are cool with open marriage, maybe — just maybe — that’s not a crisis. That’s people thinking for themselves.
Verdict: Negative framing, but the underlying point about shallow media coverage has a kernel of truth. The lifestyle deserves better stories, not fewer stories.
🔗 UnHerd | Manhattan Institute
🍍 The TSN Take: This Week’s Temperature Check
Overall media temperature: Warm with turbulence.
This was a big week for non-monogamy in the headlines. A celebrity went viral talking about her open relationship. A respected psychology publication ran actual research instead of fear-mongering. A major denomination started wrestling with polyamory in its governance. And conservative outlets sounded the alarm that the mainstream is “promoting” non-monogamy.
Here’s what we think that adds up to: non-monogamy has graduated from curiosity to cultural conversation. When people are writing op-eds against your existence, you’ve arrived. When academics are studying your relationships with rigor, you’ve arrived. When comedians are talking about it on the biggest podcast in the country, you’ve arrived.
But — and this is a big but — the quality of that conversation still has a long way to go. Too many stories focus on the mess. Too few center the communication, the growth, the work that makes this lifestyle beautiful. That’s why communities like ours matter. We fill in the gaps the media leaves behind.
So this week? We’re cautiously optimistic. The spotlight is on. Now it’s up to all of us to make sure what people see is the real thing — not just the clickbait version.
Stay open, stay connected, and keep those pineapples flying. 🍍
Big love,
Dan & Lacy